Marriage and Family Ministry

Marriage and Family Ministry

RiverLakes is deeply committed to helping marriages and families grow spiritually.  We offer a wide variety of opportunities to help you grow in your marriage and family life such as Marriage Enrichment Classes, Couples Date Nights, Couples Retreats, Marriage Conferences, Parenting Classes, Seminars, etc.  For more information, please contact Brent Van Elswyk or Jennifer Brittian at the church office.

Brent Van Elswyk (661.589.9733 ext. 211 or

I Still Do Marriage Simulcast

I Still Do Marriage Simulcast

​Saturday, October 4


Community Center

Childcare by RSVP only

Continental breakfast and lunch included

Purchase tickets online HERE.

FamilyLife® announces “I Still Do”, a one-day marriage event that will strengthen your marriage and rekindle the romance. Enjoy engaging speakers, musicians and worship leaders, and be encouraged to continue to invest in your marriage and live life as a team.


  • Understand God’s blueprints for marriage at a deeper level.
  • Learn practical tools to build a successful marriage on a firm foundation.
  • Rediscover the secrets of romance and intimacy.
  • Gain hope to rebuild a troubled marriage.
  • Discover the keys to make your marriage last a lifetime.

Brent Van Elswyk

Community Centery

Ignite Marriage Conference

Ignite Marriage Conference



Marriage Conference

with best selling authors & international speakers


"Ten Best Decisions  a Couple Can Make"

Learn to Build a Love That Lasts

Friday, March 4 // 6:30 - 9:00pm

Saturday, March 5 // 8:00am - 12:30pm

$69.00 per couple

Childcare available upon request

Tickets are available at the church office or at the door the day of the event

Brent Van Elswyk (661.589.9733 ext. 211 or .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address))

RiverLakes Community Church

Marriage Enrichment Class

Marriage Enrichment Class

Oneness in marriage doesn’t just happen.  It takes intentional investment of time and a biblical understanding of marriage to create a oneness that will grow and deepen over the lifetime of a marriage.  

The Marriage Oneness class will equip couples to grow in true intimacy, connection, and purpose.  Along with a profile to evaluate and address each couple’s own oneness level, Marriage Oneness includes Circle Up small group discussions, Oneness Work application exercises to complete together, and a personalized Next Steps Planner. 

Marriage Oneness equips couples in seven key areas:

  1. Communication
  2. Conflict Resolution
  3. Money
  4. Spiritual Beliefs
  5. Sexual Intimacy
  6. Roles and Responsibilities
  7. Family and Friends

Sundays at 10:45am in the West Portable

October 9 - December 4

Jennifer Brittian (661.589.9733 ext. 238 | .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address))

West Portable

Couple Checkup Conference

Couple Checkup Conference

The Couple Checkup Conference is a unique marriage enrichment event that applauds your strengths and provides specific direction for how you can rise above your growth areas as you seek to increase intimacy and satisfaction in your relationship.


March 31 & April 1, 2017

with Ron Deal


  • 6:30 - 9:30pm
  • Check-in begins at 6:30pm with dessert reception
  • “Finding Strength for Your Marriage”


  • 8:00am - 1:00pm
  • Breakfast starts at 8:00am
  • “Living Your Prescription Strengths”

Registration: Please pay careful attention to each deadline below.

Early Bird: 

  • $79 or before March 17, 2017
  • To receive the full benefit from the conference, couples must register by this date. This includes your conference registration, online inventory (a $29.95 value), and conference handout.

Regular Rate:

  • $99 after March 17, 2017
  • This includes your conference registration, online inventory (a $29.95 value), and conference handout.

Childcare available upon request only.

Registration Closes: March 26, 2017

For more information, call or email Jennifer Brittian at 661.589.9733 or

Father Daughter Dance 2017

Father Daughter Dance 2017

​​Friday, February 10

7:00 - 10:00pm

Main Auditorium​

Tickets: $25 per family


Taking our daughters on a date and spending some quality time with them can make lasting memories.  Daughters seem to remember their dates with dad long after they are over.  Plan to join us this year for our Father-Daughter Dance. Please bring your favorite dessert or snack. Memorable photos will be available for an additional cost.

Father Daughter Dance 2018

Father Daughter Dance 2018

Friday, February 9, 2018


Main Auditorium

$25.00 per family


Tickets will be available beginning 1/21 online, Sundays at the kiosk, or in the church office. Please bring a favorite dessert or snack to share. 

Memorable photos available at an additional cost.  For more info, call Steve Henslee at 619.8811 or email

Marriage Conference 2018

Marriage Conference 2018

RCC Marriage Conference with Dr. Paul David Tripp

"What Did You Expect?"

April 20 - 21, 2018

$35 per Couple

Register at the Door

4301 Calloway Dr. Bakersfield, CA 93312

Somehow, some way, every marriage will become a struggle. If you want to enjoy a beautiful, lifelong relationship, you will need more than romance. You will need something deeper than shared interest and mutual attraction. According to bestselling author and marriage expert, Dr. Paul David Tripp, you’ll need realistic expectations, you need radical commitments, and more importantly, you will need grace!

Friday, April 20: 5:30 - 8:30pm (Dessert Only Provided)

Saturday, April 21: 8:00am - 1:00pm (Hot Breakfast & Snacks Provided)

Childcare Available by Request (Snacks and lunch provided for children)

For more info, contact Jennifer Brittian at 661.589.9733 (ext. 238) or

RCC Couples Date Night: Bunco

RCC Couples Date Night: Bunco

​Saturday, July 28

5:30 - 8:30pm

Community Center

$25.00 per couple

Join us for an evening of Bunco for Couples! Enjoy a great time of fun and fellowship as we engage in the game of bunco!! It's an interactive game that everyone can learn to play and possibly win a prize! This evening will also include a delicious catered dinner and dessert.

Childcare is available by pre-registration only. Children will be served pizza for dinner.

Online registration is closed but you may still sign up at the church office or at the door the night of the event.

Marriage Enrichment Class

Marriage Enrichment Class

​"What Did You Expect....Redeeming the Realities of Marriage"

with Dr. Paul David Tripp

Sundays, September 30 - November 18

10:45am - Noon | West Portable

Sign up at kiosk table on Sundays beginning on September 9.

The Bible teaches that we all bring something destructive into our relationships – sin.  Yet we buy into the delusion that our biggest problem exists outside of us. We blame our spouse and we blame our circumstances, but we rarely take seriously the nature of our own sin.

This video curriculum will help you get to the bottom of your struggles - your heart - and help you find lasting hope for your marriage. It’s only when you worship God as Creator, Sovereign and Savior that you will ever love as you should.  What Did You Expect? Redeeming the Realities of Marriage will challenge you to look into the mirror of God’s Word and see yourself with accuracy.

RCC Couples Date Night

RCC Couples Date Night

The Not-So-Newlywed Game

Saturday, November 3 | 5:30 - 8:00pm

$25 per couple | Tickets available at the door

Get ready for a night of fun and laughter!

The Newlywed Game is back... with a twist! Testing Newlyweds to see how well they know each other is fun, but the REAL challenge is the test of TIME!

Maybe you’ve been married a year or 50 years but how well do you know your spouse? Join us for a fun night of great food and fellowship to find out!

Childcare available by pre-registration.

Art of Parenting Class

Art of Parenting Class

January 13 - March 3, 2019

9:00am | West Portable

$25.00 per couple (signups coming soon)

"Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them."  ~Psalm 127:3-5.   

Parenting is a hard but most important work.   Family Life's Art of Parenting workbook study will help you set up a parenting framework that is biblical, reliable, and intentional.  It will help you aim your child's heart toward God.  Whether you're parent, stepparent, single parent or grandparent this material will be helpful in raising children of all ages. 

Upcoming Occurrences

  • Sunday, January 13, 2019 at 9:00am - 10:15pm
  • Sunday, January 20, 2019 at 9:00am - 10:15pm
  • Sunday, January 27, 2019 at 9:00am - 10:15pm
  • Sunday, February 3, 2019 at 9:00am - 10:15pm
  • Sunday, February 10, 2019 at 9:00am - 10:15pm
  • Sunday, February 17, 2019 at 9:00am - 10:15pm
  • Sunday, February 24, 2019 at 9:00am - 10:15pm
  • Sunday, March 3, 2019 at 9:00am - 10:15pm
Parent Dedication

Parent Dedication

Dedicate Your Baby on Sanctity of Life Sunday: Parent Dedication is a formal commitment of parents with their child(ren) on January 27, 2019 at the service of your choice. This is a public statement telling others of your love for the Lord, your intention to model that love to your children, and your willingness to be held accountable.  Attendance at Parent Dedication Class is required of both parents on Sunday, January 13 at 6:00pm in the Community Center, Room 120.  Exceptions only by prior approval with Pastor Brent at 589-9733.  Please, no children over 6 months in Parent Dedication Class.  The Nursery/Sunday School program is available for childcare needs through 4th grade. If you have already been to the class, your attendance again is not mandatory, but you must call the Church Receptionist in the office at 589-9733 by Jan.14 to confirm vital information. 

The next Parent Dedication will be Mother’s Day May 12, 2019 with Class on May 5.

Premarital Counseling: Getting Ready for Marriage

Premarital Counseling: Getting Ready for Marriage

Premarital Counseling:  Getting Ready for Marriage, with Dr. Brent Van Elswyk, will help couples construct a solid foundation upon which to build an enriching, fulfilling and growing marriage. Plan now to prepare for your marriage, not just your wedding. Wednesday evenings January 23 – February 27, 2019 from 6:00 – 7:30pm in the Community Center Room 120. Call the church office to sign up at 589-9733.  $150 includes resources and couple inventory. 

The next Premarital series: 4/3/19-5/15/19.

Premarital Counseling class includes lecture, worksheets, reading, workbook and discussion. On the first day you each receive a packet of material (including outline & worksheets), a workbook for assignments, and a number of resources/books to use as a couple. Topics include: Why Marry?; How Men & Women Differ; Expectations; Communication; Conflict Resolution; Issues (money/anger/etc); and Intimacy.  Plus, along the way, you will take an individual Personality Assessment and do an online Prepare Test (or similar option for remarriage). Toward the end, or shortly thereafter, Dr. Brent will provide appointments to meet with each couple alone for couples counseling and review of test results (for which he is certified).   If you prefer Premarital Counseling elsewhere, just as a couple and not in a group setting, we can recommend a licensed Christian professional.  We have found the group format more affordable while offering the benefit of learning from others as they may share and inquire from different perspectives. But this style does not appeal to everyone's taste or schedule. If you would like a referral, call Debbie at 589-9733 x222.